Shaking hands and getting naked: Culture shock at its finest

So you’re at a social event and there are a few friend’s of friends who you’ve not yet met. As usual, you introduce yourself and oh.. err.. this suddenly becomes seriously awkward as you dive in for a hug whilst the other person politely offers their hand. “What!? Have I missed something?” Nope, this isn’t a business meeting, you’re just in Germany where people of all ages genuinely shake hands when they first meet. You now look like an absolute keeno who thinks they’ve known this person for 5 years, when it hasn’t even been 5 minutes. Great.

If I had a pound (or euro) for the amount of times this has happened since I moved to Germany, I would be rich. I’m from London and I just can’t shake the feeling that offering your hand is too formal. I still feel like I am putting up a barrier between myself and the person I have just met.

It’s similar to the use of ‘Bekannter’ acquaintance which is thrown around way more regularly than in English. I mean, perhaps I use the word ‘friend’ too loosely, but why intentionally keep such a distance when you can just be welcoming and use the word ‘Freund’ friend, even if you don’t know the person inside out? For me, as soon as the handshake progresses to a hug, or ‘Bekannter’ progresses to ‘Freund’, it’s like you’ve been ‘accepted’ and then I’m like ok, so I guess we’ve now entered ‘stage of  friendship: level 2’.

After months of tackling my own cultural norms and unnautrally greeting people with a hand shake, imagine the horror when I went to a sauna and everyone else was naked!! WHAT!!?? No hugs on first introductions, but hey, let’s get naked in the sauna together when I don’t even know your name!?

I honestly didn’t know where to look. No swimwear allowed in saunas (for hygiene purposes), if you’d like to cover up, you’ll need to bring a towel (because this is more hygienic?) I was so shocked, or rather horrified, that I even brought it up with a with a few German friends. To my comfort, they also think this nakedness is weird so perhaps it’s not as culturally ingrained as I had initailly thought (?) But can you imagine my confusion when comparing this to the reserved hand shake and frequent use of  ‘Bekannter’!? It had me questioning how such a HUGE contrast is even possible!

I’m pretty flexible with adpating to different cultures, but when it comes to getting naked in the sauna, I’m gonna have to say “nein danke,” it’s just not for me!

6 Comments Add yours

  1. expatfrankfurt says:

    I would rather not know their names in the sauna. Imagine walking into a sauna full of naked Germans before realising that you have to see them all in the office the next morning. Now that would be awkward…

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  2. Sandra Gordon says:

    OMG, hope u had a shave! 😂😂😂

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  3. B says:

    Actually the Sauna nakedness is a beautiful thing to embrace! As this is (by general norm) a specific kind of totally de-sexualized nakedness, where all body types are equally accepted in their natural state in the longing for relaxation. It is especially frowned upon, in most cases strictly forbidden in terms of social norms to “check out” anyone. You are here to enjoy yourself, not to be hit or stared on.

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    1. Yep, I don’t think it’s a bad thing in itself, just something that I’m certainly not used to and therefore makes me feel uncomfortable. Thanks for reading!

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